Insult to injury

If anyone reads this and wants to offer some advice. Feel free. I am clueless.

My wonderful cousin and her husband each began blogs following the sudden and very tragic death of their 11 year old daughter. Keeping this blog has been cathartic for them. Not that my troubles are in anyway comparable to their incredible grief, but I thought a blog might give me some solace.

But here's the insult to injury part: I have been relentlessly stalked by a man that I started dating about this time last year. Yes, he was abusive. Verbally from the beginning. Physically in July and August.

I finally broke down from the embarrassment and shock and disbelief and started calling the police near the end of September. He was arrested on misdemeanor stalking. Five days in jail. Oct. 8 he was released on bond with order to not contact me in any way. He broke that order by starting to call again a few days after he was released. The same week my cousin's child died. I feel like I didn't get to grieve and support my family during this tragedy because of this man's selfishness. Anyway - back to stalker-man. I told him to stop calling or I'd call the police again. Of course he didn't stop. I went back to the Chief Magistrates office with my answering machine and cell phone, etc. The Judge issued another arrest warrant because stalker-man broke the bond order. Of course he hid from the police from Oct. 22 to Halloween day when the police officers in the next county swooped down on him. Stalker-man spent Oct. 31 to Nov. 15 in jail before another bond hearing. Somehow he managed to get up the money for a lawyer and the bail-bondsman. The bail was set at $10,000 and again he was to have no contact with me. Nov. 27 he started calling again. Always from payphones.

Most were hangup calls. Or made when I was not home. Dec. 22 I answered without looking at the caller id box first. It was him! Fear shot through me in an instant. I said I was going to call the police and hung up. I did call. Another report was made. I was advised to pick up a copy and go back to Magistrate court. I did that too. Unfortunately, it was the Friday after Christmas and pretty much everybody was already gone for the New Year's holiday. I leave the courthouse to find this idiot standing by my car!!! Can you believe it??? I called the police again. This time it was City. Unbelievably, the responding officer is the husband to the officer supervising stalk-boy's bond release. The police searched but couldn't find him. The bond supervisor said she would seek a revocation on his bond. She went back inside and contacted a superior court judge to hear it on Jan. 4. She then called he husband/responding officer back and had him inform me of the date and time for the court hearing. When that date, Jan. 4 came around I called her to find out where the hearing was going to be. She said it had never been scheduled because there wasn't enough time to notify stalker-man to appear. I am just dumbfounded! Why didn't anyone let me know?

Back on Dec. 12 this thing was supposed to go to court/trial/whatever. I never heard a thing. I've emailed the D. A.'s office twice with details about his contacting me since the last bond hearing referencing the police reports. I've called and left voice mail for the D. A.'s clerk twice. No response whatsoever!!!!

I felt foolish and stupid because I hadn't reported these attacks sooner. Now I feel even more greatly foolish and stupid!!! Now I know why so many of these crimes go unreported. Not only am I this creep's victim, not only am I terrified of every little thing now, etc./etc/etc....Now I feel that the court system is further assaulting me. - almost as an extension of him. They are perpetuating the torture and humiliation . I am told of a court date, time, etc. and all this torture comes rushing forward. I again live in this altered existence. Then, - - nothing. He's not even been notified to be there. I can't relive this over and over again for nothing. They haven't even read over all the info I gave them back on Oct. 22 for the felony hearing.

I am just shocked. I thought if you were in danger you 1.) called the police 2)prosecuted the wrongdoer 3) began to feel safe again. WRONG!!!! It is a terrible shame we have these laws on the books; our dedicated police officers are hired to protect us; and then the courts don't care or even pay attention.

The caring and concerned officers - men & women - city and county that have responded to my 911 calls are just as victimized by this travesty as I am. I could clearly see in their faces as they were trying to comfort and quiet my fears as they took down the details, that they really believe that if I took their reports and followed their instruction to go to the courts that this stalker-man would be dealt with. Not so. I have been desperately let down by the DA, the bond supervisor, whatever - But, it's a real shame that the court will not even back up our city and county police officers. I can't understand this.

Stalker-man always said he'd never have to go to jail. Is Georgia this backward? Is it a local thing? Does anyone care?

You know, I not just some unhappy customer. I have been slandered, beaten, raped, stalked, I've had my life threatened. This creep even threatened my mother. He has often retorted that he would never go to jail. He is crafty. I guess sometimes the bad guys do always win!!!!